By Patrick Arousr
In the 8 years or so that I have run the Arousr platform, I have regularly seen men end up on adult chat services when they would have been better served calling a therapist. As can be heard in interviews with members and chat hosts on the Arousr Podcast. Sex is a pretext to engage in a conversation, but the conversation itself moves away from the sex part, and sometimes does not involve sex topics at all.
‘Men come for the Sex, they stay for the connection.
What’s behind this?’
It’s pretty well documented that compared to women, men are less likely to seek help for mental health difficulties. Men are not acculturated to talk about their feelings. Most are raised on adages such as “big boys don’t cry,” or “man up.” They are encouraged to be stoic and to “tough it out,” In general, Men Get Penalized for Straying from Masculine Norms.
So, where do men go when they need to escape from these social expectations? They go somewhere where they can stay anonymous and feel comfortable being vulnerable with someone.
Why are men ending up opening themselves to chat hosts, whom are not professionally qualified to provide such services? — Continue reading on Arousr Blog.
